This past week a video
went viral when a woman complained about the lengthy wait time at a clinic. On video, we see the physician asks if the
patient still wants to be seen. The
patient declines to be seen, yet complains patients should be informed they
will not be seen in a timely manner. The
frustrated physician replies, “Then fine…Get the hell out. Get your money and
get the hell out." While we do not witness
events leading up to the argument between doctor and patient, we do know staff
at the front desk called the police due to threats made by the patient to
others.
Based on the statement
released by Peter Gallogly, MD, he is a humble, thoughtful, and compassionate
physician who was very concerned for the safety of his staff, which he
considers “family.” Physicians like Dr.
Gallogly do their best to serve patients, ease their suffering, and avoid losing
ourselves to burnout at the same time. Every human being deserves our compassion,
kindness, and clemency. Patients and
physicians must accommodate each other when possible.
Do physicians actually deserve our mercy when
necessary? Yes, they do. I should know. The kindness shown to me by my patients over
the past month has been unparalleled, leaving this physician thankful beyond
words.
My father has been a practicing pediatrician in our
community for 47 years. As I type these
words, he is dying in a hospital bed. We
have worked side by side for the last 16 years.
It is difficult to make it through the day, desperately hoping to hear
his voice one last time in the clinic hallway.
He was carrying a full patient load before an unexpected cardiac arrest ended
his career. The patient load doubled
overnight; it is a burden I am carrying alone.
Many families have brought their children,
grandchildren, and great-grandchildren to us for more than 40 years. We
have seen them through the darkest moments of their lives, at their most
vulnerable, and brought them into the light.
Now, our patients must guide me through unimaginable heartache and grief.
Long wait times can be terribly frustrating. Punctuality has long been a personal
obsession. Lately, I have been unable to keep up; patients with appointments are
waiting more than two hours to be seen.
Every new encounter begins with an apology for tardiness followed by an update
on the condition of my father. Most
families are aware of my overwhelming task -- running a practice built for two
when I am but one physician. Not a
single parent or child has complained, yelled, accosted, or threatened. Each family has shown me desperately needed mercy.
Over the last twenty-one days, patients have provided
15 home-cooked meals. Some have assisted
by car-pooling my children or taking care of them when my presence at a last
minute hospital care coordination meeting was required. Others have simply offered a helping hand, by
filing charts, running errands, or landscaping the grounds. This is the physician-patient relationship as
it was meant to be, simple, beautiful, and perfect.
Yesterday, after apologizing yet again, a mother reassured
me she would wait as long as it took to have her child seen, hugged me tightly,
told me to take a deep breath, and offered me her chair to rest. She reminded me to take care of myself. In the next room was a grandmother who has
been patronizing our practice since 1977, when I was barely three years
old. She offered billing services free
of charge and emphasized how grateful she was for the loving care provided for two
generations to her family.
The clinic my father established is a place where
mutual admiration between physician and patient has existed seamlessly for a half
century. Magic happens when patients
walk through our doors. The next time your
physician is running late, consider the challenges they might have faced that
day. Accommodating their delay will be treasured
more than you can possibly imagine.
Medicine is not a hospitality industry. Patients are not customers and physicians are
not restaurant wait staff. We gave up
our youth to become educated, skilled, and compassionate. Saving the life of human beings is not
equivalent to ordering a hamburger and having it served your way. Physicians genuinely work hard to serve
patients at their most desperate hour.
Remember, we are also human beings, who unequivocally need and deserve
your mercy.